“How To Leave A Group. Profitably.”

1. On October 26th, 2009 at 4:19 pm Ellie White-Stevens Says:

   Two things: consistency in your bullets, page 2, column 1 (need all first caps), same page five column 3. Otherwise, this is fantastic, it’s clear, concise and it has great real examples. No one who belongs to any organization should be without this information.

2. On October 26th, 2009 at 4:30 pm Wendy Kinney Says:

   Thanks Ellie!
   That heading font was just for fun, it won’t make the final cut, I know.

   Any other questions come into your mind?
   I’m up for arguments, too . . . !

   Thanks, again – W!

3. On October 26th, 2009 at 4:36 pm Paul Schempp Says:

   CONGRATULATIONS WENDY!! This chapter is excellent. In particular, you lay out some key points for disengaging with grace. These are principles and practices anyone can follow. The examples you used allowed me, as a reader, to find meaning in what you wrote, as well as offered me guidance on taking these ideas into action. That the examples were real gives credibility to both the example and the text. If you pressed me for any suggestions on improving, I have two minor points that may be helpful to you. First, at the end of your introduction offer the reader an over view of your suggestions/principles. Your introduction is a great hook, and justifies the need for disengaging with grace, but I wasn’t sure what was coming next. If you just listed the subheadings after a line such as “Several strategies will help you to leave a group profitablity. These include: a)…. ” Second, close your chapter in the same way. In other words, you just gave me great tips, so let me leave with a summary to help me remember this wondefully useful information. If you think these two suggestions will help, great, if not, the chapter is strong as is. On a personal note, I loved seeing Martha’s name in there. :-)

   Congratulations Wendy, and thank you. This is great stuff.

   Paul

4. On October 26th, 2009 at 8:25 pm Wendy Kinney Says:

   Paul, thank you so much.

   The book has three parts
   1: Get In Touch 2: Stay In Touch 3: Make It Count

   Each part has ‘extras’.
   This chapter is one of the ‘extras’ after 1: Get In Touch.

   My question is: do I begin and summarize each part AND each section?

   Sounds like I should go back an refresh from Medina’s book.
   Thanks so very much for your support – W!

5. On October 26th, 2009 at 8:42 pm Ellie White-Stevens Says:

   1st page, col 3. whiny has no e. I’d like to see a reasonable “reason” to quit when there is no obvious reason. For example, I do my best never to lie about anything, so what would a “true” reason be that would still be acceptable, if you don’t have the major life change or too much business? Maybe there is no good answer to that.

6. On October 26th, 2009 at 9:29 pm Wendy Kinney Says:

   Fabulous, Ellie. Thanks. I’ll try some out on you!
   Could that be another question in the last pages, or do you think those reasons should be included up front?
   Grateful, W!

7. On October 26th, 2009 at 10:07 pm Kellie Coker Says:

   What if you didn’t get fired? You decided to leave the company and are looking for new job opportunities in a new city. Would I make my 1 minute about this?

8. On October 26th, 2009 at 10:20 pm Wendy Kinney Says:

   Kellie, thanks – that is something I left out.

   It’s never good to give bad news to a group.
   And you leaving feels bad to them.
   There’s just no way around it.
   They like you, and you’re rejecting them.

   So use this principal:
   “The easiest way to offend someone is to refuse to let them help you.”

   And turn it inside out:
   “The quickest way to endear someone to you is to ask them to help you.”

   So you might say:
   “I come today asking for your help.
   I’ve decided to take your advice and follow my dream.
   In California.
   West Hollywood, California.
   Where it’s expensive to live.
   And I don’t have a job.

   You know me.
   You know my strength is: (list your favorite).
   If you have a friend in West Hollywood, California who needs what I have to offer, I would appreciate your introduction by 3-way email.
   Come to think of it, your friend needs (repeat your strength), so they would appreciate hearing from you, too.”

   Eager to hear how it goes – W!

9. On October 27th, 2009 at 12:57 pm Kellie Coker Says:

   Wendy, thank you for your advice. It went very well, several members and visitors approached me after the meetings for contacts for me in L.A.

   Thank you again!
   -Kellie

10. On October 27th, 2009 at 3:58 pm The Profitable Way To Say … Goodbye » PowerCore Members’ Blog Says:

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11. On October 30th, 2009 at 11:31 am Jennifer Autian Says:

    Wendy – I enjoyed the chapter. You write as you would give the presentation, which makes it come to life. A few comments, hopefully of help and interest:
    1st column, 1st page – should “for ever” be one word?
    1st page: 1st/3rd column both start with a new sentence, 2nd column header sentence continues. I think it would work better to have all three start with new sentences. 2nd page/2nd column as well.
    Bullet point cap agreement 2nd page/1st column, 5th page/3rd column
    Page 8, 3rd column “If you stay, and a professional would, then you it is your… Sentence reads poorly. (Take out you.)
    Thank you for sharing the chapter with us. I have experienced the bad departure of someone, and unfortunately it happens too often. Great to have some tips on how to do it well if I need to leave a group.
    Enjoy your day. Jennifer

12. On October 30th, 2009 at 3:35 pm Wendy Kinney Says:

    Jennifer, VERY VALUABLE comments, thank you so much.

    Eager to see your books, too!
    Gratefully, W!

13. On November 14th, 2009 at 10:35 pm Lindsay Says:

    If you stay, and a professional would,
    then you it is your responsibility tell
    someone, so the same thing doesn’t
    happen to another member. Here’s how:

    Then it is your responsibility to tell someone…

14. On November 15th, 2009 at 9:04 pm Wendy Says:

    Oh Lindsay – great catch! THANK YOU. W!